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| Adventure
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This has all the usual meanings, and on this site it
usually has the added meaning of "the kind of sex I'd like to have but
my last partners didn't give me." Usually it refers to trying new
bedroom positions, trying threesomes, doing it in exotic or forbidden
places, etc. Again, it's a relative term, so read the context clues
before assuming you know what it means. |
| Anal |
Short for anal intercourse (penis in butt). That
said, it's often used to mean any kind of butt play (rimming, playing
with butt plugs or vibrators, etc.), in which case it's short for
"anal play." You may possibly come across these related abbreviations:
A/S (anal service) and A/W (anal worship), which are situationally
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| Auto-eroticism |
Do-it-yourself sex. Masturbation. |
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| BBW |
Acronym for Big, Beautiful Women. |
| BDSM |
This is an acronym for a conflation of paired terms,
as follows: Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism
and Masochism. For people seriously into these various pairs, the
differences are important and the debates heated. Briefly, Dominance
and Submission (D/s) is more about psychology, power exchange, and
role playing. Sadist/Masochists consider themselves sensualists --
it's all about needing those physical feelings, or using them to get
turned on. Bondage and discipline is just that, spankings to
mummifications, with or without the S/M or D/s (note the dominant
upper case "D" and the submissive lower case "s" -- the official
affectation of D/s pundits). But on AFF, the preferred term is "kinky"
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| Bi-curious |
A male or female who is interested in trying same-sex
activities. |
| Bi-sexual |
Attracted to members of both sexes. |
| Blow job |
Mouth on penis action that results in ejaculation (thar
she blows!). |
| Bondage |
Use of any sort of restraint in sex play. Although
bondage can get elaborate with advanced sailor's knots, rope
suspension and so forth, on this site, people generally mean the
lighter varieties -- maybe a silk scarf around the wrists or a pair of
handcuffs. |
| Butt plug |
A plug or stopper inserted in the anus for added
sensation during sex play. Commercial butt plugs are flanged at the
end (so they won't slip up the chute) and made of safe materials. But
home-grown ingenuity abounds, in which case it's anyone's guess. |
| Butt play |
Though this is basically another term for "anal," it
tends to be used more often when the writer is referring to activities
other than penetration. |
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| Circumcised |
The penis no longer has a foreskin. For example, a
majority of American males are circumcised as infants. |
| Closed swinging |
Couples are having sex in separate rooms on the same
premises (usually a party in a large home). |
| Cross-dressing |
A member of one sex dresses as a member of the
opposite sex. Drag queens and drag kings, for example. It would
include the practices of transvestites who practice the behavior
specifically for sexual arousal. |
| Cunnilingus |
mouth action to female genitals, oral sex; that is,
licking, lapping, sucking, slurping any of the larger genital parts
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| D & D Free |
Drug and disease free. (Everyone claims to be it and
to want it, so it cancels itself out as a useful term.) |
| Dildo |
Commercially, it's a latex, silicone, rubber,
plastic, glass, etc. object, usually (but not necessarily) resembling
a penis, used for insertion in sexual play. Non-commercially, there
are vegetables, household wares, and whatever else the human
imagination can conjure up. |
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| Discreet |
(not discrete) Usually used as "discreet encounter."
Respecting the privacy or maintaining the secrets of another or not
attracting a lot of attention. It sounds more responsible than "let's
keep it a secret." In many cases, the person using the term "looking
for discreet relationship" is married or has a serious relationship
going on, and by discreet, they mean, don't call the house and say,
"This is so-and-so's lover is s/he there -- I could use some phone
sex." Other times, there are children or parents involved and the
person doesn't want the relationship paraded in front of them. In some
cases it simply means the person wants to keep it low profile -- don't
plan on showing up at your lover's office with a picnic lunch and a
vibrator. In short, since it can mean a laundry list of things --
you're best to clarify. |
| Doggie style |
A man-from-behind sexual position in which the woman
is on all fours -- the way doggies do it. |
| Dominant |
(Also dom, domme, domina and dominatrix -- the last
three are female only). The person who wants to be the controlling
partner or aggressor in sexual relations. (It can also be used as a
descriptor: "I am dominant in the bedroom.") If the person has
mentioned a D/s relationship or says they like it "kinky," it can mean
playing the role of "Master" or Mistress" to the partner's "slave" or
"servant." If someone says point blank, "I'm a dom (or domme)," they
mean this type of role play, added, most likely, to elements like
bondage, pain, and other goodies. Again, clarify. |
| DP |
Double penetration - A penis in two holes. In a
three-way, having anal and vaginal penetration at the same time -- one
up the chute and one in the hole. |
| D/s |
Dominance/submission play. One person takes the
controlling role in sexual activity, the other person takes the
passive or obedient role. This "play" has varying degrees of
intensity. In frequency it can range from once in a while to 24/7, and
in intensity it can range from giving a few orders or deciding who
takes what sexual position to inflicting severe pain. Always clarify
what the person using the term is thinking. |
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| Eating |
Basically a term used for cunnilingus. |
| Exhibitionist |
A person who is aroused by being watched, either
naked, or masturbating, or having sex, etc. |
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| Fetishes |
Things other than erotic zones of the body that turn
an individual on. Examples are rubber, leather, latex, fat, toes,
boots, high-heels, corsets, nylons, you name it. That said, this
narrow definition has come to incorporate BDSM, because people
associated with BDSM practices often had a "fetish" for leather
(whips, belts, straps, chaps, leather gloves, etc.). So a person who's
into whipping might call that practice a fetish. |
| Feminization |
"Forcing" a man to dress as a woman, wear nylons,
silk undies, etc. Usually it's his fantasy as well as his partner's.
Less often it simply means transvestitism. |
| Fellatio |
Mouth on penis oral sex, not a term you'll find often
on the site; male profiles often express this as "receiving oral."
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| Fingering |
Most often this is a finger applied to the clitoris,
but it can be any variety of finger-in-hole actions as well, including
anal fingering. |
| Fisting |
Make a fist, shove it in. Or make the fist after it's
in and use it as a piston. There's anal fisting and vaginal fisting.
(And except in the case of a very wide jaw, oral fisting is more
appropriately known as a fist fight). |
| Foreskin |
Also, prepuce. A fold of skin that covers the head of
the penis often surgically removed by circumcision. |
French
also
(French culture)
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Mouth on/in genitals sex. Cunnilingus and fellatio.
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| Fun |
On this site "fun," as in "looking for fun," tends to
mean "sex," or "primarily sex." |
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| Generous |
Often this term takes with it the connotation that
money will be exchanged for sex, so be forewarned. |
Greek
also
(Greek Culture)
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Any action that involves anal penetration by penis.
More commonly applied to male homosexuality. |
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| GSOH |
Acronym for Good sense of humor. |
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| Hand job |
Man gets orgasm when he or his mate strokes his peter
by hand. |
Hard core
swingers |
Couple who live, eat, sleep swinging; also swingers
who engage in hard core swinging (below). |
Hard core
swinging |
A swinger gathering or meeting is hard core when sex
is expected. |
| Hard swinging |
Swinging where there is sexual partner switching,
"hard swinging" is synonymous with swapping. |
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| Head |
As in "giving/getting head," is mouth on penis
stimulation, fellatio. |
| Hedonism |
From an involved Greek philosophy and way of life, it
is basically the belief that the greatest good in life is to seek
physical pleasure. Pleasure seeking. It can be a way of life. The
Hedonism resort chain obviously co-opted this concept. They are quite
opulent and favorite destinations of swingers, nudists, and
fetishists. |
| Hung |
Same as well-hung. Man with a large penis. Bull-dick.
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| Introitus |
Latinate term for the vaginal opening. If you see
this term on AFF, you're probably reading the profile of a doctor.
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| IRL |
Acronym for In Real Life, usually in ads or
discussions where fantasy play is discussed, to differentiate the play
from the daily grind. |
| ISO |
Acronym for "in search of." |
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| Jacuzzi |
Brand name hot tub set-up with jets of water
constantly circulating into the tub -- these jets are often used for
masturbating and have great foreplay value, so the mention of
"Jacuzzi" is less about the brand name and more about the sexual
image. Very popular with the swinger crowd. |
| Johnson |
One of the many nice little names for the penis. |
| Juicy |
A great way to suggest horniness without saying it.
For example, "looking for a juicy lady" means "Ladies, please be hot
to trot." |
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| Kitten |
If you see this in a profile, it may mean the person
being described is some or all of the following: "fluffy,"
flirtatious, petite, sexy, delicate, submissive. Again, keep reading
to find out which apply. The term is also used sometimes for "pussy."
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| Kinky |
The narrowest definition refers to incorporating
fetishes into sex play. You may find balloons give you a woody
(balloon fetish), and so you (or your partner) rub your penis with a
balloon to get you off. Broader definition includes BDSM. You like to
be tied to the bed; your partner likes to be whipped; you like to
worship your partner's arm pits, etc. However, on the site you will
even broader definitions -- in fact it can merely mean "looking for
sex that's more adventurous than what I'm used to. For example, if
she's only had missionary sex with her husband for the past 20 years,
she might think doing it doggie style is "kinky" -- or doing it
outdoors, or doing it with three people. Many people think anal sex is
"kinky." In fact, many people think that anything that causes you to
wrinkle your nose and go "eeuwww!" is kinky. Best to inquire about
this one. |
| Kundalini |
Sexual energy. The term is used in the context of
Tantra and most people using this word will be referring to a whole
way of thinking about sex that involves meditation and breathing
exercises. |
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| LOL |
Computerese acronym for Laugh Out Loud. You'll also
see a lot of this :) |
| Lover |
Sexual partner, but often meaning that the person
using the word expects more than sex (such as companionship, LTR,
etc.). |
| LTR |
Acronym for long-term relationship. |
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Master
(or Mistress) |
A person who assumes the "play" role of
Master/Mistress while the partner "plays" slave or servant. This
"play" can be a once-in-a-while thing used to spice up sexual play or
it can be sustained over a 24/7 schedule. It can be as mild as giving
a few orders or deciding who takes what sexual position or as heavy as
inflicting severe pain. Do inquire. |
| Matroom |
A room set up for group sex. Also known as a group
room. |
Meet for
pleasure |
This expression means, in swinging, that the
encounter is not about friendship, but sex only. |
| Menage a trios |
From the French, this means three people set up a
household. It includes sexual relations of course. So it really refers
to a live-in situation, but it has been generalized quite a bit. On
the site, it can often mean any "encounter" in which three people have
sex. |
Muff
(muff diving) |
Well, "muff" is appropriately descriptive of the bush
as located on the venus mound, that is, female bush. "Muff-diving" is
also fairly accurate in description if you consider that you have to
dive through the muff to get to the meat-- which is what muff diving
really is: cunnilingus. |
Mutual
pleasuring |
In the most general sense it means, "We both come."
But it often means "you do to me whatever I do to you" -- an important
distinction that can grow into a nasty nettle patch if you don't
clarify it early on. |
Mutual
masturbation |
"Masturbate" primarily means manual stimulation of
one's own genitals, but a secondary meaning is to manually pleasure
someone else. "Mutual masturbation" usually means, you masturbate me,
I masturbate you. But technically it can and often does mean each of
us masturbates him or herself, but we're in the same room watching
each other. On the site the term can mean almost any combination of
you-do-me-do-you-watch-me-watch. |
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| Naturists |
An actual national organization of nudists, these are
nudists with a philosophy, so it includes nature, going back to
nature, and a lot of outdoor activities. |
| Nudists |
People who like to be nude and do it as often as
possible. They often remain nude in their homes, get together with
other nudists for events, or have special places like camps or beaches
where they can congregate (in the nude, of course). |
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| O (the big O) |
"O" is for orgasm. "Big O" is big orgasm. |
| Open swinging |
Two, plus couples have sex in the same room -- but
not necessarily with each other. |
| Oral |
Oral sex (see below). |
| Oral sex |
Cunnilingus and fellatio, any variety of mouth to
genitals action, irregardless of climax. In other words, for you
legalists, it can be called "sex" even if there's no orgasm. Less
frequently called "oral service," which may suggest a D/s context.
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| Orgy |
Group sex, lots of people, lots of parts in lots of
holes and no wallflowers allowed. |
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| Play |
Any kind of fun stuff you do as part of arousal,
foreplay, or sex. Sex play, bedroom play, kinky play, etc. |
| Polyamory |
Sexual relationships with more than one partner.
Usually refers to emotional attachment and various agreements between
the partners. |
| Positions |
The sexual positions, for example man-on-top,
woman-on-top, man-from-behind, woman from behind (with strap-on), and
so forth. People usually mention positions in conjunction with
"adventure" or as part of wanting to "try something new." |
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| Quickie |
Quick sex, usually involving orgasm, often on the run
or in a public or unsanctioned place. |
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| Rear Entry |
A position for intercourse: guy enters woman from
behind (or woman sits back on lying down man). |
| Receiving |
Being the passive partner, having any sexual act done
to you. On AFF it's often used in this context: "I like oral sex,
giving as well as receiving." This means, "You suck me, I'll suck
you." |
| Reciprocate |
This is a more sophisticated way of saying "do me
like I do you," but it works for non-sexual contexts as opposed to
"giving and receiving." It can refer to something as nebulous as "have
exactly the same degree of passion I have." In this case, better
investigate further. |
| Rimming |
Analingus. Tongue goes anus diving. |
Recreational
Swinging
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No-strings swinging -- swinging without attachments,
friendships, relationships, emotional connections, etc. |
| Role Play |
Sex games people play whereby each partner plays a
certain fantasy "role," like school boy and school mistress, baby and
daddy, whore and john. |
Roman
(Roman Style,
Roman
Culture) |
Sex by orgy. |
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| Sadomasochism |
The giving (sado) and receiving (masoch) of pain in
sexual play or for sexual arousal -- or for just plain fun. |
| Shaving |
Usually refers to shaving pubic hair, but can refer
to shaving any or all other places hair grows on the body. The user
will usually specify. If a woman says "shaved" she's most definitely
referring to pubic hair. A man may qualify with "completely shaved"
and then he would probably be referring to at least chest and pubes,
possibly pits and legs, not necessarily beard or head hair. |
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| Social |
In a swinger context you meet and greet, but don't
have sex. Essentially a chance to meet other couples for future sexual
encounters. |
| Soft porn |
Cross an X rated movie without the plot with a
XXX-rated movie without the in-your-face action. In short, all the
packaging with none of the content. |
| Soft swinging |
Couples get together and engage in sexual activity
together, but they only have sex with their own partners -- no partner
swapping. But a lot of watching does go on -- and possibly some
touching -- a touchy matter best negotiated in advance. The hard line
for soft swinging is no intercourse between non-mates. A wider
definition says that any time a couple brings in a third party, they
are swinging (threesomes). But in this case the third party would only
watch or be watched. |
| STDs |
Acronym for Sexually Transmitted Diseases. Also STIs
(where "I" is illnesses, more often seen in UK) |
Straight
(also STR
or STR8)
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Guys often write this in a profile to discourage
other guys from contacting them. |
| Strap-on |
A penis-shaped dildo with a flanged base, latex or
something similar, that is run through a hole in a harness. The penis
end allows a woman to penetrate and copulate like a man while the
flange, pressed against her body, can stimulate her clit. She can ride
the man from behind, engage in sex with another woman, and engage in
other manly pursuits. |
| Submissive |
A person who likes to take the passive role in sex or
lets the partner give the orders and call the shots (also used as a
descriptor). In the context of D/s play, the role takes on more
requirements as negotiated by the partners. |
| Swapping |
This is swinging where two (or more) couples get
together and exchange partners to have sex. |
| Swedish |
Sexual play that involves massage or a lot of
touching. |
| Swinging |
Refers to couples "playing" with other couples or
with singles. It doesn't really qualify the degree of play. It tends
to mean there is some sort of sex involved. In any case, the term
doesn't really give you any clues as to who does what with whom. For
some clue, they have invented the terms "hard swinging" and "soft
swinging" and otherwise, you read between the lines. |
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| Tantra |
Well that's a big one. Tantra is a spiritual practice
that revolves around the sexual union. It works with sexual intimacy,
body awareness, breathing practices, sensitivity practice, a whole lot
of other things all conceptually driven by concepts such as
two-becoming-one, bringing unity out of polarity, uniting spiritual
energy with physical energy... After that, read a book, watch a video,
or get a teacher. Because on AFF, not everyone who uses the term walks
that actual walk. Some people use the term to mean they are slow,
serious sexual connoisseurs as opposed to the "quickie" types. It also
tends to suggest they want a more long-term arrangement, more
emotional commitment rather than the one-nighter/no-strings thing. But
it's a wild card, so if someone uses the term with you, it's best to
inquire. |
| Threesome |
A couple and a third party engage in some form of
sexual activity. But it can be used to refer to any three people in a
sexual encounter. Every situation is different, so it's important to
clarify parameters. |
| Tonguing |
Most often refers to use of the tongue in
cunnilingus. Although if used in conjunction with a body part, it
simply means applying tongue action to said body part. |
| Toys |
In an AFF context, leave your kids out of this one.
These would be sex toys, any implement used in sex play. It tends to
mean things like dildos, vibrators, butt plugs, and so forth, can
include kinky toys like handcuffs and blindfolds, but really, after
that it could be anything up to and including the kitchen sink,
especially if you have someone creative on your hands. |
| Transgender |
The larger category of people who wish to be or
believe they're meant to be a member of the opposite sex, plus people
who've made the change, and people who exhibit cross-gendered
behavior, such as cross-dressers. |
| Transsexual |
A person who used to be one gender and changed to the
other gender via hormones and/or surgery. |
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| Triad |
A three-way, ongoing relationship of mixed sexes, as
opposed to a "threesome" which is usually a one-nighter just for sex.
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| Troilism |
A sophisticated way of saying "threesomes" --
traditionally this term refers to threesomes as a perversion. |
| Tung-hsuan |
This guy wrote a book hundreds of years ago that took
all the fun out of sex by tying it to numerology and making you count
everything. And-one-and-two-and-three-and-four. Unless you have a
Mathematics fetish, if someone on AFF suggests this approach to you,
run. |
Transvestism
(transvestitism),
TV |
Someone who advertises as a TV is a transvestite (transvestism
is the practice). This means the person gets sexually aroused by
dressing in the clothing of the opposite sex, men who love to wear
women's underwear, for example. |
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| Uncut |
Refers to the penis when it still has its foreskin.
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| Utopian Swinging |
Swinging as a life style, complete with philosophy,
which is humanistic in nature. |
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| Vibrators |
A sex toy that vibrates, usually battery operated.
They can be used topically for body sensitizing or clitoral, penile or
testicular stimulation. They can be used by insertion for either
vaginal or anal stimulation. And then there's creativity. Anything
goes. |
| Voyeurism |
For those who like to watch. Broadly speaking, it
refers to being sexually aroused simply by watching other people
engage in sexual activity. As used on the site it can mean the person
is not willing to engage physically, or it can mean that if you don't
want physical contact, he/she is willing to go along. Examples: a
married lady will offer to watch or be watched and consider that
within the realm of her marital fidelity. Or, a man will join a couple
as a voyeur -- look but don't touch. |
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| Wank |
UK expression for jerk-off, jack-off, slap the
monkey, etc. The person who does this is called a wanker, often used
pejoratively. |
| Water sports |
Usually refers to pee play, but broader definitions
can include things like enemas. |
| Woman-on-top |
A coital position whereby the woman is literally on
top of the man. Many men prefer their women on top, and this suggests
nothing else about their lovemaking style or personality. |
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| XXX |
Hard porn. You get to see all the machinery up close
doing its thing. |
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Great bit titties and a wide open cunt here
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Teen trackstar drops her sweats and white panties too
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Bare older brunette wiggles her ass
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Blonde bbw unbuttons her biballs
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| Yoni |
Vagina. This term has Eastern sexual practices
written all over it. It also refers to the female principle. Someone
using the term might be into or well-read in Tantric sex. |
